State integration involves linkage in at least three different dimensions of our lives. The first level of integration is between our different states–the “inter” dimension. We must accept our multiplicity, the fact that we can show up quite differently in our athletic, intellectual, sexual, spiritual–or many other–states. A heterogeneous collection of states is completely normal in us humans. The key to well-being is collaboration across states, not some rigidly homogeneous unity. The notion that we can have a single, totally consistent way of being is both idealistic and unhealthy. Daniel J. Siegel
Kiss a lover, Dance a measure, Find your name And buried treasure. Face your life, It's pain, It's pleasure, Leave no path untaken.
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Neil Gaiman
Whoever loves becomes humble. Those who love have , so to speak , pawned a part of their narcissism.
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Sigmund Freud
It's easy to look back and see it, and it's easy to give the advice. But the sad fact is, most people don't look beneath the surface until it's too late.
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Wendelin Van Draanen
Denna is a wild thing, " I explained. "Like a hind or a summer storm. If a storm blows down your house, or breaks a tree, you don't say the storm was mean. It was cruel. It acted according to its nature and something unfortunately...
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Patrick Rothfuss
I was always an unusual girl. My mother told me I had a chameleon soul, no moral compass pointing due north, no fixed personality; just an inner indecisiveness that was as wide and as wavering as the ocean.
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Lana Del Rey
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...not all encounters with the world affect the mind equally. Studies have demonstrated that if the brain appraises an event as "meaningful, " it will be more likely to be recalled in the future.
Mindfulness has never met a cognition it didn't like.
Our dreams and stories may contain implicit aspects of our lives even without our awareness. In fact, storytelling may be a primary way in which we can linguistically communicate to others–as well as to ourselves–the sometimes hidden contents of our implicitly remembering minds. Stories make...
At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life....
